As Long As I Know Who I Am, I Don’t Have To Prove Anything

People who love us know who we are. You don’t have to prove yourself to them . They know our limits and know that their rights end where ours begin.

The desire  to prove certain things for approval or recognition is an unnecessary source of stress.

If you think about it and analyze it for a while, you realize that this is something you do more often. Proving your love to your family or friends, causing you to do things you don’t want to do.

Of course, if you want to get along with everyone, sometimes there is no other option but to do certain things to strengthen the relationship or to meet society’s expectations, but there are always limits. These limits are your own values ​​and above all your own personal dignity.

When you stray from these values ​​and feel compelled to do things that are not authentic to you, you run the risk of suffering an identity crisis or depression.  Let’s take a look at this.

When you are authentic, you are free and healthy

Saying “no” sometimes means you’re afraid of hurting someone or worse, disappointing someone you love. Despite that, however, this world can open an infinite number of doors and possibilities for you.

That’s because saying “no” sometimes means “yes” when said at the right time. Let’s think of a simple example. You are in a relationship with a complicated partner and even though you love each other, you still feel unhappy.

A ‘no’ at the right time – although it is difficult – means giving yourself the opportunity to start over and to stop hurting each other. If you keep going the same way,  all you’re doing is distancing yourself from yourself. You end up in useless suffering.

The courage to show who you are and what you want

Showing who you are and what you want is a necessary survival technique. It’s like marking your territory. It lets others know how far they can go and what they will encounter if they cross these limits.

• Make it clear from the start what your values ​​are and what you are willing to allow. Make sure they know what information is unnecessary. This makes things easier and of course it also makes living together easier.
• People who never set boundaries  open themselves up to others to cross those boundaries by always asking more of you.  They hope that you are always there for them and do not respect your rights and wishes.

• This does not mean that you only see everything from your own point of view. So you isolate yourself from the rest of the world. You should see it as “celebrating who you are”.

Once you have a clear idea of ​​who you are, what you want and what you don’t want to let in, you will find some kind of inner peace and get along better with others. You will also be fully aware that others also have the right to be authentic, spontaneous and sincere, without being fake.

No one should feel obligated to act like someone they are not.

I know who I am and I don’t have to prove anything

Indecision, insecurity and low self-esteem send you on a continuous search for external acceptance to feel good. This is not good.

People who look for acceptance in others will find themselves in a very dangerous kind of unhappiness. These are people who always try to please their partners because that’s “the only way” they feel good.

• These people are unable to say ‘no’ to relatives, even though it is against their principles. They are especially afraid of disappointing them  or projecting an idea that doesn’t match what their partners have of them.

• All of this can lead to a loss of self-confidence, preventing you from building a positive, strong, and authentic life. You are so focused on others that you no longer listen to yourself. The people who don’t listen to themselves don’t take care of themselves anymore and get lost.

Discover yourself

You could say that life is mainly a process of discovering yourself. If you make an inner connection, you will also be able to form more satisfying relationships with others.

That’s when you start discovering others in freedom, being aware of everyone’s rights or the magic of building communal projects, feeling free, but intensely united at the same time.

This is by no means an easy task, but it’s worth slowly getting to the point where you find the balance necessary to stop trying to be something you’re not or don’t really feel.

The courage to say “no” and know that you have nothing to prove is always liberating.